Is this for you?
When you change,
you are not alone.
You're not lost. You're in transition. There are moments in a woman's life when the person she was no longer quite fits — and the person she is becoming hasn't found her footing yet. Diaspera Coaching exists for exactly those moments.
Something in you has shifted and your current role no longer reflects who you are.
You may have changed personally — through motherhood, a move, a loss — or professionally through a new role. Coaching helps you close that gap.
You know what you want, but something unseen keeps getting in the way.
Imposter syndrome, perfectionism, fear of visibility — these patterns have deep roots. We trace them together and gently loosen their grip.
As an expat, you carry two worlds. Sometimes they enrich you — sometimes they pull apart.
Your home culture shaped your values and ambitions. Your adopted country has its own unspoken rules. Coaching helps you integrate both.
You've thought about this long enough. What you need now is clarity and someone in your corner.
You've already done the hard work of recognising something needs to change. The next step is structured, supported action.
Life transitions
Moments that change everything
Motherhood reshapes your sense of self, your ambitions, and your relationship with work. Many women return from maternity leave feeling like strangers in their own careers. This is often where coaching begins.
Becoming a manager means leading others before you've fully understood your own style. Imposter syndrome, new dynamics, and the weight of responsibility — coaching helps you lead from your real strengths.
Building a career in a new country means navigating different cultures, rebuilding your network, and sometimes reinventing your professional identity from scratch. You are not alone in this.
Menopause is rarely spoken about in professional settings — yet it profoundly affects energy, confidence, and focus. You deserve support that acknowledges the whole of you.
A redundancy, a health scare, a moment of sudden clarity — any transition that makes you ask: who am I now, and what do I actually want?
How we work
Coaching that goes to the root.
Every stuck feeling has a source. Together we look beneath the surface — at the stories, relationships, and inherited patterns that quietly shape your choices.
"The answers are already in you. My work is to help you hear them — and then act on them."
— Ioana Bour
Making visible what is usually invisible — relationships, hierarchies, loyalties.
Using systemic constellation techniques, we map the invisible forces in your career — loyalties, exclusions, and hierarchies that shape your experience without you realising it.
Many assumptions about ambition and success were inherited, not chosen.
Family stories, parental expectations, cultural norms — these shape our relationship with success long before we enter the workplace. We bring these patterns into awareness so you can choose what to carry forward.
Your greatest qualities and greatest challenges are often two sides of the same coin.
A core quality — like decisiveness — can tip into stubbornness under pressure. Using Ofman's Quadrant we map your core qualities and learn how to stay in your best self even in difficult moments.
Beneath every conversation are layers — content, relationship, and feeling.
Many conflicts are not about what was said — but the relational dynamic or feeling underneath. Learning to read all three layers transforms how you show up in meetings and difficult conversations.
About your coach
Romanian-born, rooted in the Netherlands.
"I spent 15 years watching brilliant women make themselves smaller. I became a coach so they would never have to."
I am Ioana Bour, a Coach Practitioner certified at de Baak, based in the Netherlands. My coaching journey began after I stepped into management myself — a moment that changed how I saw people, potential, and what it really means to grow.
I am passionate about systemic coaching and art therapy as ways to reach what words alone cannot. I am also a mother of two daughters, and everything I do is driven by a vision of a world where women no longer hold themselves back. I have been coaching since late 2023.
Ways to work together
Choose your format
Every woman's journey is different. Diaspera Coaching adapts to where you are.
Private, focused coaching sessions by video. Designed for women who want depth and discretion, on their own schedule.
Learn more →Some work is more powerful in the same room. In-person sessions allow for embodied, spatial techniques that go deeper than a screen allows.
Learn more →A carefully curated group of women navigating similar transitions. The mirror of shared experience adds a dimension that individual coaching cannot.
Learn more →What coachees say
Real conversations, real change.
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"I came to Ioana feeling completely stuck after going back to work post-maternity leave. Within a few sessions I could finally see what was holding me back — and more importantly, what I actually wanted. She has a gift for making you feel both challenged and deeply supported."
Senior Consultant, Amsterdam
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"I was promoted to team lead and suddenly felt like a fraud. Ioana helped me understand where that feeling came from and how to lead from my actual strengths rather than from fear. The work was deeper than I expected — and exactly what I needed."
Team Lead, Rotterdam
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"As an expat navigating a career change in the Netherlands, I felt invisible and unsure of myself. Ioana created a space where I could be completely honest. I left every session with something concrete — and something that lingered long after."
Project Manager, The Hague
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"I had been playing small for years — staying invisible in meetings, second-guessing every decision. Working with Ioana was the first time someone helped me see that pattern clearly. Six months later, I asked for the promotion I had been avoiding for two years."
Financial Analyst, Utrecht
Ready to begin?
Your first step is a conversation.
A free 30-minute discovery call — no commitment, no pressure. Just a real conversation to see whether Diaspera Coaching is right for where you are right now.